We often see people who call themselves “allies.” They display a rainbow in June, like a pride post, or say “to each their own.” It’s a start. But being an ally requires more. Much more.
Here’s what that means, concretely:
- Listening, without appropriating
Lesbian experiences are specific. They are not simply about “being part of diversity.” They speak of love between women, misogyny, homophobia, fetishization, and erasure.
Listen to us, don’t speak for us. Share the word, don’t steal it. - Don’t sexualize lesbians
If you fantasize about two women together but are offended when they kiss in public, you’re not an ally, you’re a voyeur.
Respect our bodies, our relationships, our autonomy. - Actively defend, even when it’s not “safe”
Being an ally means intervening when someone makes a homophobic joke. It means correcting sexist remarks. It means supporting a lesbian colleague in a hostile environment.
Not just when it’s easy. Especially when it’s uncomfortable. - Buy ethically and queerly
Want to support lesbians? Start by buying from brands created by us, for us. Like Lezzy.shop. We don’t engage in empty marketing. We live our realities.
Your money can amplify queer voices, fund struggles, and change lives. - Understand that it’s not about you
It’s okay if you make mistakes. We all do. The important thing is not to refocus. This isn’t your time. It’s our time to shine, and yours to support.
In summary:
Being an ally isn’t an Instagram label.
It’s an active commitment, sometimes uncomfortable, but always necessary.
Thank you to those who are truly there. We see you. We respect you. And we invite you to continue, stronger, further.
